Saturday, January 31, 2009
Friday, January 30, 2009
I hope for comfort for my friend and her family in this situation. It is hard to remember that through the pain the happy memories will eventually break through and instead of making us cry they will make us smile.
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
33 Things about Abby :)
1) Abby is the funniest person she knows (and I know except myself of course:)
2) Abby is a great listener. She always knows what I am saying and gives great advice.
3) Abby loves her boys and would do anything for them.
4) When Abby was little she fell off the front steps with a curtain rod in her mouth and had to go to the ER and have surgery. When her 5 year old accidentally hit my 4 year old in the head with a shovel (don't ask) over the summer I think we both had flashbacks to that day.
5) In her next life she is going to be a private investigator.
6) Wine is her favorite food group.
7) She doesn't like doughnuts or really any breakfast foods.
8) Just the other day our parents were arguing about whether Abby was turning 32 or 34 this year. Imagine that they were both wrong. At least they knew which day her birthday was on.
9) She likes girly things especially makeup. Thank God for Sephora!
10) She spent time as an exchange student in Germany.
11) We used to be mortal enemies as kids but now we talk 3 or more times a day and see each other multiple times a week.
12) She stole the name Owen from me ....well it was my BOY name and I never had one so I guess she didn't' technically steal it.
13) She dated her now husband Jeremy for months before she introduced him to her family.
14) Abby loves to gamble especially in Vegas.
15) Abby had a terrible experience with the birth of her first son and I think it took a great deal of strength and courage to have another child. Nick was worth it too he is a doll.
16)Snow and ice on Abby's birthday is nothing new...on her 2nd bday in '78 we had a huge blizzard that shut down the city for a week. During the blizzard our brother went down the stairs in a laundry basket and broke his arm and my dad had to drive him to the hospital in the VW van.
15) Abby never wore braces
16)...but has had glasses since she was little.
16) She prefers baths over showers
18) ..and a pool over the ocean.
19) She has an obsession with squirrels ..one in particular.
20) She has a secret drawer.
22) She likes to be right and usually is.
23) She is a DVR addict.
24) Once she got a popcorn maker from her husband as a gift and she cried. I think her husband did better this year.
25) She can keep a secret (unlike me).
26) She makes the best coffee and hot sandwiches.
27) She and I constantly owe each other money for one reason or another.
28) We both hate it when our Dad is mad at us..our Mom we don't really worry about but our Dad we do for some reason
29) She has an odd affinity for Bobby Flay. Not just his food but him. She made her husband take her to his restaurant in Vegas and secretly hoped she would meet him.
30) She is always on time or early.
31) She is a stickler for correct grammar.
32) She has a personalized license plate on her car.
33) Her word is as good as gold. She says she is going to do it it is done
I hope you have a great day little sis'! Happy Birthday!
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
I love all three of my girls individually and equally but I have to wonder if they popped out of the hatch with their personalities set in stone or if my parenting made them the way they are?
Monday, January 26, 2009
Sunday, January 25, 2009
I could never have taken the kids to Target just to waste time... that would have been silly and caused me to spend lots of money.
My sister and I did NOT take 5 kids out to dinner and ply them with pop and mini donuts to keep them quiet. NO WAY, that would have been bribery!
I seriously did not consider making a tape of myself saying "find something to do!" "clean up your mess" and "time for bed" so I didn't have to repeat it over and over ....
There is no way I made Chris go shopping with the girls and I at Justice (major tween shop) especially not on his birthday weekend...nope not me!
I did NOT watch 48 Hours Mystery the other night even though I knew the person would be convicted because they always are and I did NOT tell myself I have to stop watching this show...even though I know I won't.
I didn't start hyperventilating when I saw the forecast for MORE snow this week that could delay or cancel school once again...that would have been silly!
There is no possible way I woke up at 3am because I heard the Wii music echoing in my head only to realize it was a horrible nightmare about the mii's chasing after me.
Saturday, January 24, 2009
It is a picture of the first day of school. Caroline would have been entering 3rd grade and Olivia the 1st grade. Amelia would have been 3...so just in the picture for fun! I made them pose in the first few pictures and told them to do something funny in this one....
Friday, January 23, 2009
Thursday, January 22, 2009
When you walk into the class there is no time to be a bystander. Immediately there is a child to chase or a nose to wipe. The teacher is on top of every aspect of the class. She knows what each child's goals are and the best way to get them to fulfil those goals. I have total admiration for her. She is one of those people that you immediately feel a kinship with and want to be around. That personality and spirit is what makes her a fabulous teacher. She is one of those people you want to say "it takes a special person to do the job that you do. I know I could never do it". The thing is when I used to teach special education 10 years ago that was something that was said to me on a daily basis. I did not get it then...and used to be almost offended when people said that to me. Now I believe with every part of me that it really does take a special person to do the job. It takes someone who does not prejudge abilities based on limitations. It takes someone who can see past physical differences and treat all the students with the same amount of respect and positive reinforcement. I truly believe this one year of preschool will affect Amelia positively both academically but more importantly in her capacity to accept differences with enthusiasm.
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
By the way I totally realize I am going to hell so you don't need to leave a comment and tell me :)
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Monday, January 19, 2009
I hope that I am doing all I can do so that my girls have an accurate view of their bodies and don't feel like they are looking into a fun house mirror every time they see themselves.
Sunday, January 18, 2009
off...anyway continuing the tradition started over on My Charming Kids of Not Me Monday!
Saturday, January 17, 2009
Modesty is most often rendered as humility, shyness, or simplicity. The general principles of modesty include:Avoiding attracting attention to oneself by moderating one's actions or appearance;Downplaying one's accomplishments (see humility);Avoiding insincere self-abasement through false or sham modesty, which is a form of boasting.
When I saw the definition it really hit home because I have always considered myself modest but not for the reasons in the definition. I don't walk around naked or even in my underwear, I don't wear low cut shirts or string bikinis (and wouldn't even if I had the bod), I don't' like raunchy sex jokes or talking about any ones sex life... makes me blush. So to me that was being modest. However I now consider myself super duper over the top modest. I hate having attention drawn to me for good or bad reasons, I would go out of my way not to accomplish something if I knew it would draw attention to me. What is interesting to me is the people I know in my world that are not modest are also outgoing and self confident. When I think about it most of the people I surround myself with and am close to are definitely NOT modest. I actually think I am jealous of their candor and ability to put it all out there. I think it might be too late for me to shed some of my hang ups and modesty but I hope I can figure out some way to make my girls be proud of their accomplishments and self assured without turning them into the girl in the bikini on American Idol.
This picture is actually from this past week during a snow storm that closed schools and made driving terrible...a few days later we had -20 degree temperatures and guess what?? schools were closed again! So this weekend has turned into a 5 day weekend for us...we already had Monday and Tuesday off! It is like a second winter break.
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
I remember the great importance that was placed on what clothes you wore and how you styled your hair in high school. What I remember more vividly though is the importance placed on who was friends with who. There were certain crowds ...the athletes...the rock star wanna be's...the prom queens...the nerds and so on. I was one of those people that never really fit into any one group which was good and bad. I worked hard to try and fit into every group at least partly but then in the end I never really managed to feel I belonged. Don't get me wrong I have a few very close friends that I still talk to and love today but it wasn't the same as being part of one of the sought after groups.
What I really wish is that I could hold up a looking glass in front of my three daughters eyes and that they could peer in and see how none of that stuff really matters in the grand scheme of things. I would somehow show them that high school politics do not have any bearing on how you turn out as an adult. Instead of hoping for magic to relay the message to them I am going to have to hope that I am doing a good job helping them build the self confidence and self worth necessary to make it through the shark filled waters. I am hoping that my unconditional love and support will be enough.
Monday, January 12, 2009
I definitely did not pick Amelia up every day from preschool last week a few minutes late...that would be wrong and totally unlike me! I could never have hugged her and heard her exclaim I PICKED MY NOSE AT SCHOOL TODAY or I DID NOT PICK MY NOSE AT SCHOOL TODAY alternately each day last week. I would never have giggled and smiled when she said it even though the teacher didn't.
I could never have eaten right and exercised all week last week only to fall off the wagon and eat everything in sight over the weekend that would have been bad for my nutrition plan! I really did keep my resolution to not drink wine during the week IF you count Friday, Saturday and Sunday as the weekend :)
I did NOT wake up to Amelia telling me she had a terrible dream twice this week and let her right into my warm bed so I didn't have to get out to take her back to her own. I also didn't sit straight up in bed and think her dream about breaking her arm was probably more of a premonition then a dream. The same premonition thing didn't run through my head at all when she told me her second dream was about her going to jail..that would have made me a terrible mother!
I was NOT cussing under my breath this morning at 6am when the phone rang and woke me telling me that school was delayed. There was no way that after that call I was wide awake a full hour before my alarm was set to go off even though the kids could now sleep in that would have been an unfair travesty!
There is no way to avoid going to the bank for cash I dug through the change in my car to have enough to get a fountain Diet Coke not once but twice this week.
I could never have let Amelia play Wii all morning so I could write my NOT me Monday that would have been so uneducational and wrong!
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Down the road I want to be able to sleep in on a Saturday and read a novel in my pj's all day by a roaring fire. For now I will have to learn to love early wake ups and dozens of errands.
Down the road I want to vacation with my husband in the tropics without guilt or responsibility. For now I will enjoy family vacations with the kids including the hours in the car and lots of trips to the bathroom.
Down the road I want to make gourmet meals from scratch and enjoy them by candle light. These days macaroni and cheese and chocolate milk will have to do.
Down the road I want to listen to the music I enjoy and watch the tv shows that I like. For the moment I will deal with Hannah Montana and the Jonas Brothers along with Sponge Bob and American Idol.
Down the road I want to be able to talk on the phone whenever and for however long I want. For now I will be content with cutting the calls short to help with homework or to referee a fight. Unless I hide in the bathroom and ignore the chaos that breaks out every single time the phone rings.
Down the road I want to be able to focus on my training and nutrition and be able to run a marathon. Right now I will have to settle for fitting it in when I can and reach a goal of a 3K.
Down the road I hope Caroline finds a voice, Olivia finds herself and Amelia ...well I hope Amelia avoids the law. For now I will settle for Caroline worrying less about a bully, Olivia only crying every other week at school and Amelia telling me she had a bad dream about being put in jail. At least it was a BAD dream.
Down the road I hope to be able to say NO sometimes. For now I will continue to say yes to every ones wants, needs and requests.
Way down the road I hope to be sitting in a rocking chair next to Chris rocking my sweet grand babies. For now I get to sit in a rocking chair and dress and undress baby dolls, Barbies and Polly pockets over and over.
Saturday, January 10, 2009
Here is my random May picture!
Olivia and Caroline were in a parade on Memorial Day and we were sitting along the route and took this picture of them. They were with their good friends , Kylie and Kara, that live down the street from us and after the parade we went to their house for a rockin' good pool party!! That sounds good about now!
Friday, January 9, 2009
I used to come home from work smelling like doughnuts and pastries (Chris probably liked that too). Even after a shower I could still smell the disgustingly sweet odor on my skin. I think it took about five years after I stopped working there to be able to eat a doughnut, cake or cookie. Hey, maybe I need to start working in a bakery again!
Thursday, January 8, 2009
I have not told any of these stories to my girls..I certainly don't want to give them ideas or ammunition. The important thing is that as much as we fought and rivaled as kids we are now good friends so I think a lot of it is just part of learning to grow up in a family. Sorry for all that mean stuff I did to you though David and Abby :)
Apparently my sibling fury also affected my best friend across the streets little sister (she just reminded me of a ton more stories)....Sorry Kate :)
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
I think the hardest part of this whole aging thing is the fact that I still feel like I am 20 and when I picture myself in my head I see the young smooth me but then I step in front of the mirror and I see the real now me. I love myself inside so much more now than at 20. I am sure of myself and my thoughts and beliefs. I would certainly NEVER want to be 20 again unless of course I could have the inside ME from now and the outside ME from then...that would be perfect. Too bad life doesn't work that way!
Monday, January 5, 2009
Sunday, January 4, 2009
I certainly did not drink so much cheap red wine on NYE that I woke up with the wine flu in the morning especially at the ripe old age of 37!
There is no way I actually enjoyed using my Dyson over and over in the past few weeks that would be ludicrous especially for THE ANTI-clean ME.
I would never have gotten super excited when I realized the kids go back to school Monday, but then sort of sad when I realized Christmas is a whole year away.
I did not obsessively use my iPhone to Facebook, take pictures and check my email while we were on a family trip to a museum...that would have been RUDE!!
I didn't stuff as much yummy food in my body as I could this weekend before getting back on the plan Monday...nope NOT me!
I could NEVER have gone to a one year old 's birthday party and feel nostalgic and wish I had a baby again...there is absolutely positively NO way that could ever happen.
When Amelia told me she didn't feel well I didn't tell her she would be fine and then later realize she was burning up and really sick and feel terrible that I hadn't taken her seriously.
I didn't jump for joy when the alarm rang at 7am (or I am imagining I will since it is still Sunday night)!
Hmm who would be able to guess that the kids have been home for 2 full weeks??
Saturday, January 3, 2009
Thursday, January 1, 2009
*Mojitos ala BIL Jeremy for all using a medicine cup as a shot glass..we are at Beth's house remember.
* Chris grilling steaks in the 20 degree night.
*Owen and Amelia run up to her room to measure themselves in her bed to see if they can sleep in it together with out touching.
*Everyone jams with Rock Band to old favorites. Caroline sings Hungry Like a Wolf for the twentieth time.
* A round of wine and another and another.
* Cookies, candy, chips and dips.
*Facebooking with my Brother.
* Neighbors/Friends stop over and admire the chaos that is everywhere. Ok admire is a strong word....ummmm observe???
* A special New Years call from my friend Heidi in Wisconsin! YAY!
*Amelia tosses her cookies.
*Everyone mourns Sponge Bob, ICarly and Drake and Josh
* Dick Clark and Ryan Seacrest count down to 2009.
* Kids rejoice that Time Warner struck a deal and that their shows will stay!
* Everyone tucked in...for a while.
* Owen up at 6am...followed shortly by everyone else except Jeremy who continues to sleep in the middle of the family room floor.
* Breakfast and COFFEE.
* Our guests pack up and head home...but forget Nicks special blankie and drop books and toys in the drive on the way out. Ahhh glad to see we will continue with the same fun and chaos in the new year!